Also, while the father was visiting the previous evening, another mother of a two week old 27 weeker was also visiting her baby. The father took a shine to her, I guess, because he asked for her phone number. That is just plain bad form, trying to hit on a woman - who happens to be two weeks post delivery - who is not the mother of your baby while you are visiting your baby in the hospital. I've heard a lot of weird things, but this was a new one for me. I said to the nurses, "Does mother know he asked for the other mother's phone number" - no, she didn't - "or does she just know that he's a scumball from previous experience?" We all had a good laugh at that.
I might get some comments criticizing me for laughing at that, and the truth is, it is a pretty lousy situation to have the father of a baby acting like that, and it's certainly not funny to the mother. But please realize that we can't help but laugh at some of this stuff. It must be some sort of a mechanism we use to cope with these sad situations. It's not quite so bad that we're saying, "If I didn't laugh at it, I'd cry," but it's something like that.
The baby went home today after only a short stay in the NICU, so now it will be up to the mother to keep the father away. Unfortunately, it sounds like the kid doesn't have much of a chance of her parents getting along very well.
Meanwhile, in the NICU just one or two cribs away, a mother who was high on cocaine at the time of her delivery is still inappropriately silly seven hours later. As she leaves the NICU to go back to her room she turns to me and says, "Now, what room am I supposed to be in again?" Twenty years old and already wasted....
P.S. Please welcome Your Fellow Man to the blogosphere over at The Bulging Bag.