"Lorraine" was 23 when she got married and started having babies shortly thereafter. She was mostly a stay at home mom, but sometimes worked part time as a secretary because her husband didn't make much money. Her husband died when she was 44, leaving her with 5 children, ages 7 through 20, and very little life insurance money. She went back to work, coming home every evening to cook supper for her family and negotiate disputes between her kids. Although she had one or two "dates" with guys, she never really again had a significant relationship with a man, nor did she engage in any relationship with casual sex. Her family was her life, but without a companion in life she was lonely and at times depressed. Her children turned out fine, and she enjoyed many grandchildren before she died at age 78.
Perhaps some of you have guessed that I'm talking about my mother. She was a single mother, and I know that there are many other good single mothers out there, single for all kinds of reasons, and that we shouldn't paint all single moms with the same critical brush. I also know that single moms who are young and not attached to their baby's father can be good moms. Currently we have two moms whose 24 weeker babies are across from each other in the same room. One is a 19 year old with her first baby and the other a 26 year old with her third baby, and it has been a delight to work with them and their babies. They are bright and involved and appreciative.
We also have a baby whose mother is 22 years old. This is her fourth baby after her seventh pregnancy. She now has two kids under the age of one year who are not twins. She also seems pretty nice, but what can I say? Do I have to explain my sadness at this situation? I doubt that any of her kids will say that they wish they had never been born, but still....can't she just use some birth control?