There are more mundane reasons for not liking it too. There's the frustration of filling out a death certificate, knowing that you'll be called by the funeral home in a day or two to complete another one because our hospital always loses the original one. There's the awkwardness of asking the parents about the body's "disposition." Do they know what funeral home they would like to use? Do they have money for a funeral? Would they like an autopsy? Do they know what an autopsy is?
But the thing I hate the most are the recriminations. It's not so bad when a very premature baby dies shortly after birth because he was simply born too early. Not to sound callous, but those are just a fact of life. We have limits as to how early we can save a baby and all the staff understand that. But when a baby lives for several weeks or months and then dies, there are always some accusations that quietly make their way around the unit. The baby should have been on antibiotics. The baby should have been transferred earlier, later, or not at all. The nurse shouldn't have done this or that. The normal comradery and team feeling of the unit are temporarily damaged.
It is, I guess, a natural reaction. People have become attached to the baby and express their frustration. And fortunately the recriminations don't last long before the unit gets back to the job of thinking about, and caring for, the living.